As I evolved, I realized a thing about success.
That real success is not about “achieving” any one thing, but about balance between things that truly matter to you.
I have seen so many experienced and skilled people who take extreme decisions for their career growth (e.g. living away from kids and family).
Such unilateral chase and sacrifices for success are fine when you are a newbie. Struggle is a part of our life, and that’s what makes us stronger and smarter.
But as you mature and get more skilled, you should be able to choose. Your decisions should create a balance between all domains of your well-being – work, family, health, finance, relationships and other interests.
But what does balance look like? From my own experience, I can say that you have achieved balance when you:
- Work hard, but also take time to relax
- Are available to your family and kids to spend quality time
- Are able to reflect, think and care for the self
- Find time to nurture your other interests
- Find it easy to let go of things that don’t serve you well
- Are compassionate and kind, instead of being anxious or regretful
- Don’t have to “showcase” that you are successful to others (points to ego taking charge)
- Set your compass towards the inside (what do I want from life?) versus setting it outward (What will others think?)
- Know what is “enough”
Success that comes at the cost of your health, family or relationships is a kind of failure that comes to you in disguise.
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